First dinner Party (saturday)

Well i have been busy since Saturday. Most of the day Saturday I spent cooking and cleaning to have our first guests other than family over to dinner.

I made Chicken Mom-esean And we had spinach salad and crusty breads.

Dh was working til 5 so it was all up to me! oh well it was my idea after all. :)

it was a lovely evening We had the bouncy castle out for the kids to play on . Our company had two boys so there was five kids floating around. 17 mo, 2, 4, 5, and 7 and surprisingly it was really good. they were all well behaved and it was no trouble at all.

It was an attempt to make myself become more extroverted. Having friends over for dinner is certainly something i would consider outside my comfort zone. But I forced myself to do it and i am so glad we did. After supper and the kids went home to bed. dh went to our friends house for a few drinks and my friend came over here for a few drinks

I am glad i did this.

New poll; Hardest part of the mommying daddying job the first few years.

Well for me personally the hardest part in the early years was certainly the night time feedings. i have never felt so drained in all my life as those first few months. trying to function the next day was the worst and of course it just got harder with the more children i had. no sleeping when the baby sleeps then. Not that i ever could there was just too much that needed to be done! haha

my littlest still wakes up sometimes at night. but now dh gets up with her. it is rare. but i am burnt out when it comes to getting up in the middle of the night, even if i am only up for a minute or two it is disastrous to my feeling as if i had a full nights sleep. I think the 7 years of not getting a full nights sleep has certainly traumatized my body. and my mind and now any interruption ruined me lol. so anyway on the occasion should one of my children wake up dh takes care of it. Thanks hubby.

What kind of Sahm are you?

Being a sahm is not all its cracked up to be y'know. lol I guess it can sometimes depends on why you are a sahm. In the first place. If it's because you want to, I imagine it is fabulous and all that you want and hoped it to be,
But if you are a sahm because it is either the economical choice or the pressured guilt choice by you peer group or parents. Maybe it is a little less desired. or a little less fulilling.

i imagine those woman have quite a different take on it on what being a sahm means to them,
. i am not ashamed to admit, that I am somewhere in between economical- want- and guilt. And that is in order of driving factor.

Economically my family cannot afford to pay for daycare for 3 kids. it just is not possible and i would rather be home with my babies than work for peanuts.

want. from the begining i have wanted to be the one to teach my kids things and be there or the booboos and i am glad i have been here or that.

guilt part of me feels that it is the thing i should do. so that the kids are happy and feel safe and secure. untill they are all off in school.

does your role of sahm have any of these factors rolled up into it? it has taken me years to come to terms with the fact that it is okay to say this is not enough i need more. I felt guilty for years wondering how come i am not fully satisfied when everyone around me was insiting that i should. Well ladies, i no longer feel guilty. i know it is only a human response. just like we don't all like pickles. So i am no longer harbouring any shame. I am out and i'm proud. and you can be too.

now all that being said. My only role right now is a sahm. I know very little action for someone with awful big words one paragraph ago! it will work out for me. I know it will but those factors i mentioned are still there and they are strong. but since i have allowed mysel to be honest. everything has changed. and oddly enough i'm happier even though nothing has changed.

not every mom is comfortable talking about the challenges of being a sahm mom because we are 'supposed " to be loving it. but it is not the case for everyone. Now i am not saying being at home with the kids are a nightmare. i am just saying something extra is needed to feel fulfilled.

What to do today?

I started out writing a post this morning about my schedule for the day, or the lack of anything to put on it. and then i decided to take a walk to the grocery store to get vegetables to make another vegetable bouquet for my husbands work. Took the baby. ( of course)

it takes about 35 minutes to walk there, no sidewalks so a bumpy go. and well it takes 50 minutes back on account of the weight of the groceries and fatigue It is rather cloudy so it was a nice walk. i got a lot of superfoods, radish's , cauliflower, broccoli, mushrooms, grape tomatoes, baby carrots, snow peas. and more will post a pic later. so i got a lot of exercise today.
and i still have to go get the children from school.

my husband is working all day and he has the army tonight. He is a 2nd Lieut. in the reserves. Artillery. he enjoys it . It takes him out 1-2 nights a week. and some weekends. He is really enjoying it. this is a part of the reason that scheduling is so hard for things like part time work. But i am finally gonna try and fit something in.

when my daughter started primary , a little boy in her class was actually the son of someone i met in university, since school started we have had coffee and chat frequently. It is nice to have someone to chat with sometimes. she invited me to a girls night out in October. I haven't confirmed i would go but it is tempting. it is downtown and i haven't been downtown in 8 or more years, i can hardly imagine it. but i am thinking of it seriously.

New poll. Is being a SAHM enough?

I have added a new poll because i am curious what other women think about being a sahm. personally there are a lot of things i like about it and then there are the days where i feel trapped and unsatisfied.
I like being the single biggest influence in their lives. I like having to not deal with schedule conflicts all the time. Being here if they need me. and not missing a darn thing special and normal that they do.

then there is the woman in me that just wants to do something outside the house that is recognized by peers. contributes to a future career, as kids are only little while and then you have to get back out there.

When i was working before my babies I was the go to girl for information. i was comfortable and confident in my position and I felt integral. Not that i do not feel any of those things now. It is very different.

For the last 6 years i have been home , tending to the house and to the babies. i feel as if my twenties just slid by unmarked. my thirties are upon me now and again i feel as if these years are slipping away, I joke with family that my thirties are gonna suck but my forties will rock., I really believe that this is gonna be a very long decade. But hopefully , we will all come out the other end.

I have almost always wanted to go back to work part time. just to get out of the house, it has never come to pass though. there is the scheduling issues as well as schooling as well as cost of daycare. I guess you can find a lot of roadblocks if you look long enough. these are some very real issues though.
now that I have two kids in school it seems like it may be more of a possibility in the future. Although now our schedules are tighter than ever. But i did put an application in today to the superstore. I am really hoping to hear back so i can get out for a few hours make a little money to add to the pot. and just become more complete. so cross your fingers for me.

What is my 'profession'

While setting up this blog one of the profile questions is occupation. Usually if given the opportunity i select homemaker. (as archaic as that sounds to me.) But here there was no one classification that i fit into. instead it seemed I fit into all of them.





As a stay at home mom I am a kind of a Jill of all trades, you know the rest of the saying and 'master of none".



these were my options. I believe that i am all of them. Let me explain;



chemicals----- cleaning and the removal of chemicals or safety purposes starts at 9 months and never ends.



communications or media -- teaching your children to communicate starts before they are born. and trying to communicate your p.o.v never ends. Having to try new and innovative ways to get the message across.



construction it starts with building blocks and never ends. the building supplies may change but the need to be a construction expert is always called upon.



consulting -- Children always need your take on things. which is great. one of my favorite parts of the job.



education -- we start educating our kids right away and it is ongoing. one week it is letters the next week could be dinosaurs.



engineering -- important or construction ;)



environment-- teaching our children to be good to the environment is a necessary thing. also helping them to clean their 'environment" (room) is a conversation you will have many many times .



fashion-- Although we will never be in style our selves it seems to be our duty to make sure they are.



government-- I am the govt in this house. haha

human resources-- this is the one i selected. i have changed it mentally to precious resource manager!



Internet -- teaching them to use it and then keeping them of it all the time and keeping them safe,.

investment

banking-- i there is any let after fashion!



law --- respecting the Law and rules of any situation they are in. using good judgement.



law enforcement or security-- self explanatory



manufacturing-- everything from Halloween costumes to three meals on day. and everything in between.



maritime -- that's where i am haha



marketing-- I market vegetables to the kids all the time. i also market to them that homework can be as fun as playing games. I do both adequately. I need to work on my marketing.



military self explanatory



museums or libraries visits, visits, visits,



non-profit the entire job is non profit monetarily, oh but the joy i get is more than enough profit



publicising reports and drawings



real estate-- buying a house than a bigger house and making improvements to the house are never ending.



religion-- some of the hardest questions to field.



sciences-- all kinds of sciences are covered in this employment opportunity. Biology, chemistry, geology, health sciences, and more.



sport or recreation-- constant



student-- your children are your students but you also are their student. both have much to learn.





technology-- we have to buy it and then figure out to use it , thus finding out how cool it is and knowing inside we will never get a chance to use it before it eventually gets lost or broken



telecommunications -- learn to answer the phone and say, ___ it's for you! ALOT



tourism --- we need to know where all the hot spots are to go to on family vacations. Those same vacations everyone will be bored at and it will be your fault.



So This is what i do. I am sure there are more subcategories not covered.



above all I am a multi tasker

transportation. --Well this one is to obvious or clarification.